Supporting you on a clear path to owning your voice, your power, and your dreams with confidence.
If you’re feeling frustrated, exhausted and unfulfilled, you’re not alone.
So many women go through life pouring from an ever empty cup, unable to say what we really want to say. Constantly caring for others and putting ourselves last. Or becoming hyper independent, because we’ve learned that relying on others just sets us up to be disappointed.
It’s not your fault, either. As women, we’re told that our value is in how well we serve our parents, partners, and children. We learn that to talk about what we need or want is bossy or bitchy. Deep inside, we live in fear that if we were to really say what’s on our minds, we’d either be ignored or abandoned. So we learn not to talk about what we need, silencing ourselves until we lose ourselves completely.
The old rules of femininity keep being passed down, yet they no longer apply.
In today’s society, women have more freedom and opportunities than at any other time in history. We have to ability to get educations and aspire to any career path we wish. Women today can wield power and respect in the boardroom and the bedroom. Most of all, we can move in the world as equals and build mutually beneficial relationships that don’t rely on us being invisible or in service.
All it takes is that we learn how.
So much of what we learn about being a woman comes from our mother and her mother before her and though they did their best, they could not teach what they did not know. Today, we have a chance to be and do better, but we only need the right tools. That’s why I help women come to terms with the past with compassion so that they can move forward in life with confidence, power, and joy.
I am an expert and coach on how mother-daughter relationships affect our adult lives and how those dynamics are unique for Black women.
Welcome! My name is Brittney M. Scott and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and coach with background in working with families, teens, and young adults. However, as the oldest daughter in my family and now the mother of a daughter, it is my passion and joy to work with both daughters and mothers.
This work started when as a counselor, I noticed that so many of the teens and women who came in with so much anxiety, anger, and frustration often also struggled with their relationships with their moms. To better help them, I started learning about mother-daughter relationships, how mothers and daughters relate to each other, and how women have fulfilling friendships with other women.
This work creates lasting generational change.
It is amazing to be able to help women reconnect with each other and with themselves. And the impact goes so much further than ourselves.
Doing this work has helped women find their voice, own their power, and pursue their dreams, laying the groundwork for the next generation of confident and fulfilled women.
How is this work unique for Black women?
I serve women and girls from all walks of life and the basis of how all women struggle is the same. However, as a Black woman it is important to acknowledge and address how Black mothers and daughters often experience life differently, and in no way is this list comprehensive.
Black girls have to grow up faster.
Black mothers see their daughters as adults earlier because often the world does not see their daughters as children. Society considers Black girls as sexual objects sooner in life. And when they make mistakes, those mistakes are less likely to be seen as childhood mischief and more likely to be connected to a future of crime and early motherhood.
”You’ve got to be twice as good to get half as far.”
Black women are raised with tough love from fear of how society will treat them. They are taught that they must be more than perfect to achieve any success in life, and often in the workplace they experience being passed over and ignored, sometimes in favor of others with equal or less qualifications.
”Don’t take your problems outside of the house.”
Black women need and deserve support, but like many communities of color, they must overcome the cultural notion that to seek therapeutic help or coaching is embarrassing and shameful. This stigma can be reinforced by the fact that historically, Black people have historically experienced prejudice in the health care system, and are better served by culturally competent care.
Be supported in using your voice without fear so that you can create a life on your own terms.
Speaking & Media
About Brittney
Brittney M. Scott is a licensed counselor, coach, and expert on mother-daughter relationships and how they affect women’s adult lives. She brings her experience as a Black women to help others in the mental health community to provide culturally competent care.
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Speaking Topics Include:
How to understand your needs and get them met without being bitchy or bossy
Boundaries: What they are and how to make them work for you
How our moms affect our relationships with ourselves and each other
How to listen so your teen daughter will talk
Raising girls: How to build trust with your teen and teach her to speak up for herself